10 Tips for Selecting Toys for Your Speech Delayed Child

Toys for the non-verbal

As a speech-language pathologist, I am asked what toys I recommend most for children with speech and language delays all the time. Today, I’d like to share my 10 tips for selecting toys for your child with speech/language delays.

1. Ditch the Batteries

My first recommendation, is to skip the batteries. If the toy requires batteries, you probably don’t want it. OR…if it takes batteries, you can take them out. One good example is a the really cute farm set from a very popular toy maker. The toy set itself is great! But the barn has batteries so that it can make noises. You don’t need the barn to make noises. You want your CHILD to make the noises! So…do like I do and just take them out.

There are a few exceptions to this, of course. My kids have a couple toys that use batteries that I have allowed them to keep (with batteries in). They have a couple toy cameras that take real pictures, a toy lap top (I could take the batteries out, but I’ve left them in), a toy vacuum (again, I could remove the batteries here too), a microphone that you can record your voice (so cool), and a “karaoke” type toy. Their toy drill also requires batteries and it is such a cool toy-it actually works! So again…there definitely are exceptions but I would try to have most of your toys battery free.

2. Pick Open Ended Toys

What are open ended toys? They are toys that have no beginning, middle or end. They can be used in a variety of ways and allow your child creative freedom in how to manipulate and use them. These toys tend to be the more basic and traditional toys. Which is NEXT on my list!

3. Go Back to the Basics: Pick Traditional Toys

As mentioned above, the more traditional toys also tend to be more open ended in nature. Here are some examples of open ended, basic traditional toys:

4. Don’t Worry About Gender

I just talked about this in my recent post The Importance of PLAY for Speech and Language Development. When picking toys for your child, don’t stick to gender specific toys. Let your girls play with trucks and trains and your boys play with toy kitchens and baby dolls. Here is some research on The Impact of Specific Toys on Play from the National Association for the Education of Young Children (NAEYC).

“What set the highest-scoring toys apart was that they prompted problem solving, social interaction, and creative expression in both boys and girls. Interestingly, toys that have traditionally been viewed as male oriented—construction toys and toy vehicles, for example—elicited the highest quality play among girls. So, try to set aside previous conceptions about what inspires male and female play and objectively observe toy effects to be sure boys and girls equally benefit from play materials.”

I contributed to a great post all about why all children (even boys) should have a baby doll. You can read it at Mama OT.

 5. Skip The “ABCs and 123′s”

On the subject of going back to basics…Go take a walk through Target or any big chain store’s toy department. There is this aisle (ok, several sometimes) with shelves stacked high with toys that say things like “Teaches the ABCs!” “Educational!” “Teaches Colors and Numbers!” and on and on.

Kim from Little Stories talks about these and calls them SCLANS and why our children don’t need them to learn their ABCs and 123′s. In  fact, your children don’t need these types of toys. they tend to do ALL the “doing” with their lights and music and flashing lights. If your child has a speech and language delay, as a speech-language pathologist those skills are not at the top of my list of skills we need to target. I talk more about this in my post What your Toddler REALLY Needs to Learn }Hint: You Don’t Need Any of Those “Educational Toys”}.

6. Use Toys That get Them Moving

It is so important to get your kids moving! Even when indoors. Making forts and tunnels are great ways to keep them moving indoors, without actually having to *buy* specific “toys” for that purpose. We also have some ride-on toys that we allow in the house (we have tile/hardwood floors) that keep our children moving as well as balls (yes, even inside).

7. Don’t Forget to Get Outside

You don’t have to *buy* outdoor toys. Heading to the park is great and FREE! But sometimes you don’t have a park near by or it is difficult to get you and the kids there…so here are some of my favorite outdoor toys:

  • Water table (A big bucket will do, or a small pool)
  • Buckets, cups, spoons (again, these can just be from your kitchen…tupperware works well!)
  • Small shovel/hoe for digging
  • Ride on toys
  • Play house- This one is a bigger purchase. We have one and it can provide HOURS of independent, creative play!

8. Less is More

So here I have just listed some toy recommendations for you. But, the truth is that less is more. Your child does NOT need toys upon toys! In fact, too many toys can actually be a big negative. Believe it or not, children can get overwhelmed with too many toys and can end up moving quickly from one toy to another which can actually limit their play (and language) opportunities overall. But, sometimes we just have a lot of toys from holidays and birthdays. So how can you keep all these toys but still provide your child with ample opportunities for solid and meaningful play with each? (see below)

9. Consider a Toy Rotation

One solution to having a plethora of toys is to do a toy rotation. We used a toy rotation in our last home for a while and it was GREAT. Wondering how these work? Check out Little Stories (a fellow speech-language pathologist) for a ton of information on rotating toys.

10. Sometimes the BEST Toys are not “Toys” at All!

You probably noticed that a few times I mentioned using things that aren’t traditional “toys” as toys (like making forts or using buckets for water play). This is because sometimes the BEST toys are not *real* toys at all! Pots, pans, wooden spoons, cardboard boxes, homemade forts with blankets and pillows…these can be the BEST toys for your child. Be creative. Think outside (or inside) the box.

And sometimes YOU are the best toy for your child. Sing with him. Play patty-cake. Talk in a funny voice. Tell him stories. Be silly. Play hide and seek. Teach him finger plays. Play lap games.

Looking for more information on toys? You can check out my four part series on toys HERE.

So tell me…what is your child’s favorite toy?

Katie Yeh

Written on 2013/06/25 by:

Katie Yeh

Katie is a a mom to two little ones, E (4) and Ev (2), and one on the way. A Hanen Certified, licensed and credentialed pediatric speech-language pathologist in California, her interest in Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) also led her to go back to school and earn her graduate certificate in the filed of study. She blogs over at Playing With Words 365, sharing information about speech and language development, intervention strategies, therapy ideas and tips, and shares a little about her family and their life too. You can follow along on Facebookor Pinterest for more speech and language ideas and tips.
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  • amanda charlie

    These tips are really fantastic and will definitely help. Thanks for sharing such informative post.
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  • Green Ant Toys

    Love this article – Green Ant Toys, http://www.greenanttoys.com.au stocks toys to engage and inspire Children. Our Philosophy is to look for toys that will keep kids engaged, great for all kids.

  • http://www.fairytalechildrensfurniture.co.uk/ Zandra Johnson

    I loved this post. There is such a lot of good advice and help in it. Thank you. My daughter is now a grown woman but she didn’t say a word until she was over 2 years old, – she signed everything! She would mime whole sentences and “chatter” away all in mime. I used to sing to her and mime the actions to the song and she picked up the signs from that and added more of her own.

    My sister in law took her to stay for a week and told me that she didn’t want to know the mime language, my daughter would have to speak to her.

    After an anxious week of missing my daughter I returned to find that she could speak perfectly well. Oh the joy of hearing her voice as well as her laugh.

    I’m still involved with children and toys and love every moment.

    Zandra Johnson http://www.fairytalechildrensfurniture.co.uk

  • Joyce

    Glad to have found you! I am an SLP myself. I try to smile bravely when parents ask me about “educational toys” and I tell them to go buy toy foods, dishes and puppets. Thankfully we have observation rooms in our offices and they slowly begin to understand that learning language in natural ways really works! Check out my speech therapy with picture books board if you get a second. Joyce O’Keefe

  • Dr. Suzy Lederer

    Don’t forget books!!! I am an SLP and university professor. I have written three books designed to help children learn to talk…I CAN SAY THAT…I CAN DO THAT…I CAN PLAY THAT…(childrenspublishing.com) by Dr. Suzy Lederer.

  • Imie

    I like this article very much! Thanks for the bunch of information and advice. This article reminds me of my daughter when she was so little. I try to find her toys at home and play with her. It’s indeed a great feeling to spend time with your little princess!

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  • SummerBloom

    We found playing with puppets (she has a crocodile and shark hand puppets) helped with speech and creative play :)