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Karen Wang
Parenting, Special Education

10 Tips To Help Your Child with Special Needs Prepare For Middle School

As I prepare for my son’s transition from middle school to high school, I’ve been reflecting on all that’s changed in the past three years, a period of transformation and tremendous personal growth for my son. Back when we first started planning for middle school, I was all nerves, fraught with worry.  I didn’t know how my son would be able to navigate the movements from class to class, time his visits to his locker, handle the increased academic demands and find friendly faces in the cafeteria during lunch. At the time, I took steps to reduce pressure on my son and make the transition from elementary to middle school as smooth as possible over several months.  By working with the school team, I was able to  reinforce at home what my son was learning in school.  These are ten steps that can help make any school-to-school transition less painful for students with special needs.

1. Start at the top

Before we had any transition meetings with my son’s team, I attended a small group tour of the middle school led by the principal.  Afterwards, I talked to the principal about my son’s needs, and his openness set the tone for the whole transition. I did not expect the principal to be familiar with the details of my son’s case, but I got plenty of information about school programs and policies.  These are the types of questions that a principal can answer:
  • What types of special education classrooms does the school have?
  • Does the school offer co-taught classes?
  • Is there a peer-to-peer support group?  How often do they meet?
  • Can you make special accommodations for drop-off and pick-up, or can you tell me what the school policies are?
  • What type of assistance can students receive during lunch?
  • What happens when students finish eating lunch? Do they go to recess or can they get a library pass?
  • Can the school offer any extra support for the transition during the summer - for example, a day camp with school guidance counselors or a few days when students are welcome to walk through their schedules?

2. Learn your way around

I got a map of the school from the main office, and arranged to visit and take photographs on the day after the last day of school, when the teachers were packing up their classrooms.  I also scheduled swimming lessons for my son at the school during the summer, so that we would have the opportunity to walk around the school.  During the week before school started, we walked through my son’s schedule several times.

3. Identify all of your options

Middle school offers many different settings for special education, and every school handles special education differently.  Often the best fit is a combination of special education and general education, and a middle school schedule may have more flexibility than elementary school to support that need.  Some possibilities are:
  • Self-contained classroom with therapeutic support and/or life skills program
  • Self-contained classroom with inclusion for lunch, recess and some electives
  • Self-contained classroom for a few select classes (such as English and study skills for students with language delays) and general education for the rest of the day
  • General education with co-taught classes and/or a paraprofessional
  • General education with one hour per day for resource room support
  • General education with one hour per day for a learning consultant or study support

4. Identify key players

The case manager or IEP team leader is the go-to person for questions and support, but others who may not necessarily attend the IEP can provide assistance, too:
  • The guidance counselor is an excellent resource for information about standardized testing, class size, course requirements and different course levels
  • The school secretary knows everything that is happening every day.
  • Peer-to-peer volunteers have unique insight into students’ strengths and weaknesses.
  • Coaches and extracurricular leaders can suggest activities that fit your students’ needs.

5. Plan out transitions

The deal breaker for my son is always the little transitions, such as who will be there to greet him when he steps off the bus or how he will spend his recess time. Unfortunately, these transitions are not typically addressed in IEPs.  Find out exactly what school policies for drop off and pick up are, because these are the most sensitive periods of the school day for students with special needs.  Are parents allowed in the building at these times?  How will the student know when to go to his or her locker and what to retrieve? What about support between classes?

6. Behavior Supports

If your student has a behavior support plan, make sure behavior supports are in place at school, and reinforce those supports at home.  Behavior supports may be as simple as a color-coded schedule that matches the colors of the student’s spiral notebooks, or may involve scheduled check-ins and a period in a sensory room.

7. Attend parent-teacher conferences

Most parents of special education students do not show up for parent-teacher conferences.  By attending conferences, parents can make a strong statement about their involvement in a child’s education.

8. Team up with elective teachers

Elective classes can provide a fun, low-pressure environment for students to blossom. Two of my strongest allies in middle school turned out to be the choir teacher and the home economics teacher, both of whom taught my son for three straight years.  I insisted that my son be enrolled in home economics, because I knew that the lessons in self-care, cooking, sewing and budgeting would be the key to his future independence.  The teachers had plenty of time to get to know my son, support his developing interests and learn how to accommodate him.  They created peer groups for him in class and gave me valuable feedback.

9. Expect mistakes

Nobody’s perfect.  There will be mistakes at school and at home.  It is not reasonable to expect everything to be perfect on the first try.  After one disaster, I wrote to the assistant principal, not to vent my anger (and I really was angry that time), because the assistant principal already knew that he messed up.  Instead, I suggested ways to improve for next time.  The next time was much, much better.  It was a good lesson in collaboration and communication.

10. Express appreciation

I was really surprised at how many people were helping my son every single day.  Besides having a different teacher every hour, several paraprofessionals were also rotated on his schedule.  During lunch, the principal and assistant principal managed traffic in the cafeteria and made it a point to speak with my son daily. Parent volunteers and the school security team acted as hall monitors and helped to guide my son.  The school librarian allowed my son to come in for quiet time even when the library was technically closed.  The school secretary spoke with him every time he came to the office with a question, and gave me little updates whenever I stopped by.  That’s how I know that my son’s success in middle school was no accident.  And with each comment and update, I respond with a heartfelt, “Thank you.”

WRITTEN ON August 04, 2016 BY:

Karen Wang

Karen Wang is a Friendship Circle parent. You may have seen her sneaking into the volunteer lounge for ice cream or being pushed into the cheese pit by laughing children. She is a contributing author to the anthology "My Baby Rides the Short Bus: The Unabashedly Human Experience of Raising Kids With Disabilities"