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Michael Dorfman
Parenting, Special Education

Back To School: How to Write your Child's "Owner's Manual" for Special Education Teachers

Every new car comes with a large owner's manual detailing what every dashboard light means and advice to troubleshoot problems with the vehicle.  Every make of car is different requiring a specific manual for your make and model.  While two people may own SUVs--a GM SUV will have a completely different set of maintenance requirements than say, a Honda SUV, and those two owner's manuals could not be used interchangeably. Kids with special needs are no different than cars.  Two children with autism, or two children with ADHD, are nothing alike, other than having the same diagnosis. That is why each child with a physical and/or learning disability attending school needs an "owner's manual" to accompany them.  I have used the term "owner's manual" facetiously because it's a common and understood term, but not any better than "user's guide."  From this point forward the manual will be referred to as the "All About Me" pamphlet.

The All About Me Pamphlet

Teachers, social workers, therapists, administrators and all other school employees are getting larger caseloads and less time to work with students individually.  The "All About Me" pamphlet will describe your child, what makes him or her tick, triggers, biographical information, and any other details you deem pertinent.  This pamphlet allows the school personnel working with your child to get to know him or her quicker and help plan efficiently.

How the Pamphlet Works

The pamphlet is usually written from the child's voice, but in adult language.  The pamphlet does not have to be fancy and can easily be created in Microsoft Word.  Every year, we include photos in the pamphlet of our child enjoying his favorite activities and photos of our family to show that he is surrounded by people who love him and that he is valuable.  In essence, the pamphlet is partly biographical and partly informative.

You Cannot Go Wrong

There is no right or wrong way to prepare this document.  On the first day of school, we make copies and put them in the school mailboxes of every employee who will interact with our child.   These pamphlets are usually 5-6 pages long.  Too much information, like a car owner's manual, will guarantee the person to stop reading after a few pages.

We use the following headers for our pamphlet:


This is where we describe our son.  We talk about his personality, our family, and things that he likes, i.e. hockey and cooking.


In this section, we describe my son's learning disabilities in detail.  If there are physical disabilities or illnesses, include them in this section as well.  Don't assume that the teachers or other personnel understand, or have even heard of the issues your child is dealing with.  We use language from the websites that specifically deal with each disability.  We then interpose examples of behaviors that my son will exhibit that are connected to the said disability(ies).

Your Child's Needs

Does your child need sensory breaks?  Does your child need to sit in the front of the classroom?  Does your child need help with social interaction?  This is the section to describe them.  Remember, you are not placing an order and don't phrase it like it's a command.   You are communicating what will help your child to thrive in each individual classroom setting.

Past Successes

Include a paragraph on ways your child has thrived socially and/or academically in the past.  Sometimes a teacher does not need to re-create the wheel for your child.  Remember, this is not an IEP document.  It's an informal way to demonstrate ways that your child has succeeded in the classroom.  This section can discuss ways to motivate your child or systems that have helped.


This section is vitally important.  It can prevent a lot of headaches for your child and the teacher.  In frank language, explain what sets off your child, i.e. frustration, loud noises, movies, dark room, etc.  Detail what can make him or her upset, cry, violent, shut down, sad, or angry. Explain the signs that these emotions are going to come out in your child.  We all know when are own children are off, and we know the signs.  We need to convey those in the pamphlet.  We also need to explain what to do when these feelings or emotions comes out at the wrong time.  If your child is crying, what will help him or her stop?  Equip the teacher with the tools that you use to quell a disturbance.


No one knows your child better than you.  However, with great communication and a team attitude, your child's teachers and other school personnel will know how to work with your child in the way he or she learns best.  The above are merely recommendations and there is no right or wrong way to write a pamphlet.  If you're creative, add an artistic flair to it.  If your child is capable, do this as a project with them.   Enjoy the journey and know you're doing all you can for your child to succeed.

WRITTEN ON August 21, 2014 BY:

Michael Dorfman