Top Ten Most Ridiculous Comments Heard at an IEP Meeting

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By Dennise Goldberg

In my job as a special education advocate, and my other job as a parent of a child with special needs, I have been involved in too many Individualized Education Program (IEP) meetings to count.  During these numerous IEP meetings I have met some wonderful, caring, knowledgeable, well meaning Teachers and School Personnel.

I have also, at times, heard some of the most outrageous statements!!!  These ridiculous comments fly in the face of everything the Individuals with Disabilities Education Act (IDEA) stands for.  What you will find below are ten of most ridiculous statements that I have heard and why they are so ridiculous.

Ridiculous Statement #1

Your child’s emotional disturbance is interfering with her academic performance so she doesn’t qualify for an IEP.

Fact:  There are 13 disability categories under IDEA.  In order to qualify for an IEP you must meet the definition of one of the 13 categories and by reason thereof NEED special education and related services.  One of the 13 disability categories is emotional disturbance and if that disability is interfering with the child’s ability to access the curriculum then by definition she has a need for an IEP.

Ridiculous Statement #2

This is a Magnet School we don’t do IEP’s here.

Fact: All public schools are required, by law, to provide children with a disability a Free Appropriate Public Education (FAPE).  Since magnet schools are public schools they are required to execute IEP’s for those children that require special education.  This would also go for advanced study schools and charter schools.

Ridiculous Statement #3

We don’t perform Functional Behavior Assessments (FBA) or write Behavior Support Plans (BSP) for Children exhibiting off-task behavior.  FBA’s are only for kids that are not nice.

Fact:  IDEA requires the IEP Team to consider five special factors when writing an IEP.  One of those five special factors is behavior.  It states:  (i) In the case of a child whose behavior impedes the child’s learning or that of others, consider the use of positive behavioral interventions and supports, and other strategies, to address that behavior.  Behavior that impedes learning comes in many forms and does not always manifest itself in violent outbursts.  Off-task behavior can and does impede learning.

Ridiculous Statement #4

Maybe your daughter’s behavior issues are being caused by you telling her she has autism and she is emulating how she thinks someone with autism should act.  I suggest not talking with her so much about her autism.

Fact: Wow, I’m still amazed at this one and I’m not sure where to start.  Let’s focus on the fact that they are blaming the parent for the child’s behavior in school.  If the School really believes the IEP isn’t working because of the parent they are required to provide training to the parent via the related service, parent training and counseling.  In my opinion, the School needs the training not the parent but let’s move on.:)

Ridiculous Statement #5

We can’t test your child for an IEP until we have first tried Response to Intervention.

Fact: This ridiculous statement was used by so many School Districts that on January 21, 2011 the United States Department of Education Office of Special Education and Rehabilitative Services issued a memo reminding School Districts that Response to Intervention cannot be used to delay-deny an evaluation for eligibility under IDEA.   You can download the memo here: OSERS Memo on RTI Office of Special Education

Ridiculous Statement #6

Your child will be graduating at the end of the month whether you like it or not.

Fact: Graduation with a diploma is considered a change of placement under an IEP.  Any change of placement triggers extensive due process rights.  If the parents disagree with their child (who has not reached the age of majority) graduating they can stop it by filing for due process.  This would trigger a Stay Put.  Stay Put means there can be no change of placement or reduction of services while the disagreement is being worked out.

Ridiculous Statement #7

I won’t let you add your comments to the parental concerns section of the IEP form because the IEP is a School document and I disagree with your description of the events that occurred.

Fact: This question has been responded to in the United States Federal Register where it was said, “Parents are free to provide input into their child’s IEP through a written report if they so choose.”

Ridiculous Statement #8

I spoke to my supervisor at the School District and she has authorized me to offer you one hour of speech therapy a week.

Fact: IDEA specifically says that all decisions regarding an IEP need to be decided in an IEP Team meeting.  If a faceless supervisor is making the decision regarding the IEP outside of the team meeting then this is called predetermination.  That supervisor would need to join the IEP Team and discuss her recommendations with the Team before any decisions could be made.

Ridiculous Statement #9

 I agree she needs a full-time aide but I don’t have the authority to authorize that.

Fact: IDEA requires every IEP Team to have a District Representative that is knowledgeable about the District’s curriculum and resources that has the authority to bind the District.

Ridiculous Statement #10

 Your child is too smart to have an IEP.

Fact:  Intelligence has no bearing on disability or need.  Even individuals with genius level IQs can have a disability that affects their ability to access the curriculum.

Dennise Goldberg is the owner of Special Education Advisor a community of parents, educators, and special education service providers dedicated to helping families with children who have special needs understand their special education rights and receive appropriate special education services.

Dennise works with children with all forms of disabilities including autism, cerebral palsy, aspergers, and down syndrome, to name a few. She is also the mother of a beautiful 10-year old boy who has dealt with developmental delays, apraxia of speech, fine motor delays, sensory issues, gross motor delays, and now has a learning disability (auditory processing disorder).

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  • Jen

    One of my son’s middle school teachers during his full team IEP meeting said even though it doesn’t seem to be noticed by other students, his mild fidgeting with his hands bothers her therefore disrupting her teaching. Every teacher’s mouths dropped open!

  • Ruthie H

    One year the principal walked into our IEP meeting (a meeting she was specifically un-invited to) and told 12 people in the room (including every sub-specialty district chair and high ranking official from the district) that the laws did not apply to her because there “were no regulations written in stone” and that she would administer HER school however she saw fit and the fact that a child had an IEP or a documented disability was irrelevant. Following that pronouncement she walked out. With everyone dumbfounded, the district stepped in within seconds and did their job. Throughout the school year (and each one that followed) they watched her very closely. Despite this principal, my son had fabulous teachers, was given amazing supports and flourished.

  • BothellDeb

    my favorite was, after giving us 3 days notice of the IEP, the teacher said, “we will hold it that day, whether you are there or not and we will tell you what we are going to do.” We were there but they totally ignored us and our written concerns. We got their attention throughout the district and got things resolved. Special needs lawyers and judges are now some of my favorite people.

  • Silverquille

    Another to add to the list of ridiculous statements:

    “He has to fail in regular kindergarten FIRST, before we can explore whether he even needs special education services.” This was the response I had received from our local public school district when I tried to arrange for special classroom placement. Our son was diagnosed at age 4, and was already receiving professional behavioral health care from a licensed clinical psychologist and expert medical care from a pediatric neurologist. I thought all I needed to arrange for a “free and appropriate education” was to provide the extensive medical documentation we already had. Surprise! The expectation by the school district that our child needed to experience failure first was absolutely contrary to our strengths-based child care philosophy and the medically sound behavioral care our son was receiving at the time. Disgusted and frustrated, I searched extensively for a nurturing atmosphere for our son, and found it in a small, local Montessori school. He thrived there.

  • Jess

    I am a special ed teacher, yes there are bad teachers out there but we are usually fighting to get you student services too. We are constantly dealing with specialists with too many cases and not enough allotted hours. We are told to just ‘better manage’ our resources. It’s infuriating, we also have to deal with showing interventions before performing a change of placement, even though we want to move a student to more support right away. We spend hours afterschool. The sped teachers are usually the last teachers out of the building. I buy student materials and supplemental curriculum out of my own pocket. I cry when a frustrated parent tells me I don’t care about their child (this is usually at the beginning of the year and they are used to fighting from a previous school). I was in my principal ‘s office today fighting for another aid for a student who needs one on one support. Yes, there are bad, burned out, or poorly trained teachers out there. But there are also ones that give everything we have for our kids (after 3 years of all day everyday, we love them too).

  • Rene Collins

    How about the school didn’t tell me my son was having violent behavior for almost 2 months, reported his behavior to cps and the area manager kept stating that there was nothing in the IEP for his autism, then later stated she didn’t read the IEP until after cps was notified!

  • Elizabeth Andrews

    How about this…your daughter is not turning in her homework on time but is excelling on her test scores..we think that maybe she is cheating..hmm where were the cheat sheets in the 80s..if they did exist..I had no idea and just did the best I could as being a gifted child that is DEAF! IEPs would not be needed only if the teachers and parents communicate frequently when there are concerns. I am a Deaf parent with two Hearing children and I communicated with each and every teacher that had a concern about my kids and we would work together to ensure that my kids had our full support to achieve..that is what it takes, we can do it!

  • Cindy Woodruff

    Your son has not progressed in this area, so we want to cut back on the service. Never mind she didn’t follow any of the suggestions which were given to her last year.Since she obviously wasn’t interested in helping our son, we gave the district a choice of three alternative individuals to use.

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